This week’s Spoonflower design challenge is Design for Good, to create a design for a cause that is near and dear to your heart.
I chose Pink Shirt Day/Anti-bullying Day. Really, it should be every day!

For me, I was very shy as a kid, and very tall, reaching almost 6′ tall by age 12. I stood out like a bright red 6 foot tall sore thumb.

I was bullied at school horribly from about age 8 on, through elementary school by a nasty group of 3 girls, and it continued on through highschool by groups of random girls. It was relentless.

It continued on as an adult, by co-workers and bosses, by people I thought were friends but who threw me under the bus at any chance they got. The pattern kept repeating and repeating.

A few years ago, things really started shifting, and opened a game-changing door to healing and self re-discovery for me, and  I learned, and finally saw, what was really going at the very core and where it all stemmed from (it wasn’t obvious, to me at least, until it was). It took a lot of inner work, but discovering the root cause and ultimately leaving that situation, was inevitable and the healthiest decision I ever made for myself.

Once you start really seeing and realizing, there’s no going back.
Once you’ve seen it, you can’t unsee it.

There’s no changing what anyone else says or thinks about you, there’s nothing you can do to stop them if that’s what they choose, true or false, right or wrong.
Bullies have their own pain to deal with, and how they choose to deal with it, or not, is up to them.
There’s no waking them up to truth, reality, or even healing themselves, when they choose not to see.
And it is all a choice.

So *I* chose me. I chose my husband, my job, my work, and my chosen family. Life has been so much better since.
I’m healing and growing.
The ones with the dark hearts never knew me, and they wouldn’t recognize me now.

And so, I created a design for Anti-Bullying Day because choosing kindness is what I will always do. I will always stand with those who are bullied or treated as outsiders, even if we are standing alone. I will always do what I can to help, even if it’s just sharing my stories, as others who have shared theirs have helped me immensely.
It’s not just a kids’ thing, it’s an everyone thing.

This design is now available for sale in my Spoonflower shop, you can find it here!
(Please note Spoonflower’s processing times are affected by the virus, see the updates on their homepage about estimated time/delivery).

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